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I'm Javonne Crumby, creator of Lesbionyx-- A space for queer women of color. As a Black woman who loves women, I grew tired of the lack of representation and resources for women like me. So I created a platform for us and by us, because no one tells our stories like us! 

Living a Life of Purpose

What is purpose? What does it mean to live a life of purpose? Why is it important to live a life of purpose? Some would say your purpose is based on values and beliefs. Others would say it is about your accomplishments and potential. I say it’s all of those things and more. Dictionary.com defines purpose as “The reason for which something is done or created, or for which something exists.” Therefore, living a life of purpose is following your heart and living your life for what you were truly created for. The world deserves your special contribution to society, it’s the reason you were put here on this earth. Your life was no accident, everything that happens on this earth happens for a reason.

When you discover your passion, reason for living, and the answer to the question “why” behind everything you do; you are fulfilling your purpose. When you are fulfilling your purpose, life will steer you directly towards happiness. Do you ever get the feeling that you are not living, but simply existing? You wake up, go to work, and return home; it's the same routine every day. Your life is not meant to be a constant cycle like the clock that dictates the time left in our lives. It is important to live our life purposefully, for without purpose our life has no true meaning. Self-reflection is key to identifying who you truly are. Your passions, morals, beliefs and interests will all guide you towards your purpose. There are many ways to uncover our true meanings:

“Your life is not meant to be a constant cycle like the clock that dictates the time left in our lives.”

Get to Know Yourself

 Self-reflection really is key. Take the time to get to know yourself. Stop and enjoy your own company. Learn who you are and what makes you who you are. On the road to finding your purpose, it is important to know what you believe in. Knowing what you believe in will lead you down the path of living out your purpose. Your purpose is defined by your beliefs and through your eyes only. Understanding who you are and why you have become this purpose will show you what you are meant to do. We all walk our own path and have our own destiny. When you align with who you are through understanding, you align with your purpose.

  YouTuber Shameless Maya.  Photo via:  Shameless Maya Facebook

YouTuber Shameless Maya. Photo via: Shameless Maya Facebook

Create Goals

Actress Carol Burnett once said “Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.” In order to achieve your purpose you have to set goals to get there. You can’t wake up and automatically become your purpose and you can’t expect anyone else to do it for you. You must make wise decisions, create a path to achieve your fullest potential and remain focused on working towards your purpose. You must set goals, achieve those goals and become who you were meant to be. Goal setting will give you a timeline towards accomplishments and keep you from losing focus. 

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“Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.”
— Carol Burnett

Always Give Back

To live a life of purpose is to live for others. Your purpose will contribute to society and contribution is a form of giving back. Whether it be an artist who inspires others through paintings, or a mathematician who creates an algorithm that makes life easier in some way. No matter what, a life of purpose is a life of service and giving or doing for others.

 Beyoncé teaming up with UNICEF in East Africa for  Bey Good  charity photo via:  defendernetwork.com

Beyoncé teaming up with UNICEF in East Africa for Bey Good charity photo via: defendernetwork.com

Don’t Forget About Peace and Balance 

Creating peace and balance in your life is fundamental for working towards purposeful life. Maintaining and building positive relationships is pivotal towards progress and development. It's difficult to strive for greatness when you are shadowed by negativity. Therefore it’s important to create an environment filled with peace and balance through self-reflection and positive human interaction. The Dalai Lama once stated “Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” Showing kindness to others will help you achieve peace within. Just like with giving back, it is very satisfying to bring joy to others. It does more for you spiritually than for the other person.

Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.
— The Dalai Lama

Purpose gives the soul a sense of peace and inner connectedness that you can’t acquire in pill or medication. This is a natural remedy to happiness and balance in your life. Purpose gives us a sense of motivation and drive and without it, sometimes our happiness can easily diminish.  We were all put here for a reason. It is up to us to figure that out.  Some people go through their entire lives not knowing their purpose. They spend their life existing and not living. Don’t simply exist, you are here for a reason. You can reach your fullest potential and bless our world with your purpose. Seek and you will find.

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