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Are You Ready to Pop the Question?

Are You Ready to Pop the Question?

‘Tis the season for holiday parties, excessive shopping and holiday proposals. According to a wedding data collector; Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and New Years are the best and most popular proposal days. 30 percent of all proposals are done in November and December. Before jumping on the holiday proposal train make a mental inventory of your relationship.

     When running through a checklist of your relationship needs, consider all areas: emotional, social, economical and compatibility. All of these things would strongly back up a pretty ring set. Consider the following checklists to help guide both parties intentions and needs.


·         Does my partner make time to listen to me?

·         Does my partner know how to compromise without excessive arguing?

·         Do I feel safe to express myself?


·         Do my partner and I share many interests?

·         Am I free to explore outside interests not involving my mate?

·         How does my lover interact with my friends?


·         Do my partner and I have a savings plan?

·         How much can we realistically afford to budget for bills and luxury items/entertainment?

·         How does my partner feel about joint bank accounts?


·         Do my partner and I share the same long term goals?

·         Where does my lover stand on marriage and family planning?

·         Am I willing to accept the changes that come with growing old together?

Keep in mind that this is just a short list to guide your thinking and relationship conversations and decisions in the right direction regarding the proposal. Once you have decided that you are ready to propose— the fun begins!


Make it unique. Find something specific to your partner or relationship that can make the proposal unique. Perhaps a favorite restaurant, local attraction or area of interest.

Set the date. You should get with your partner and figure out rough estimate of when you plan to formally marry. Make it realistic for your situation and don’t compare your timeline to others. Enjoy the process of being engaged.

Choose the atmosphere. Plan together what colors, themes and vibe you both want for the actual wedding. Online wedding planning tools like Black Bride and EnGAYged offer unique suggestions and venue ideas.

Enjoy. Throw an engagement party if you’d like to make a big announcement. Popular Pinterest and Instagram guides have all the ideas you will ever need! If going through with a party is not ideal for you, utilize your social media to celebrate this big moment. You can stage a set of proposal pictures to post like these.

Learn more and grow. Use the engagement period to continue to learn more about each other. Taking notice of special likes and dislikes. Keep open communication. Be free to changing your minds and remaking plans. Enjoy your companionship!


Good luck!

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